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		<title>UPDATE: Russia Officially Drawing Closer to Iran</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 22 Feb 2012 16:48:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Take a look at this update form Joel Rosenberg&#8217;s Blog - http://flashtrafficblog.wordpress.com/2012/02/22/russia-warns-israel-not-to-attack-iran-if-putin-wins-march-4-election-would-he-threaten-military-action-against-israel/]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Take a look at this update form Joel Rosenberg&#8217;s Blog -</p>
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		<title>To Clarify (from Sunday Feb. 5)</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:16:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[On Sunday, February 5th during the sermon on Isaiah 55:6, I mentioned something the US Defense Secretary Leon Panetta said the previous week. On Friday, February 3rd, several news sources ran articles citing Panetta as saying there was a high probability Israel would strike Iran’s nuclear facilities in the Spring of this year, April, May, [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>On Sunday, February 5<sup>th</sup> during the sermon on Isaiah 55:6, I mentioned something the US Defense Secretary Leon Panetta said the previous week. On Friday, February 3<sup>rd</sup>, several news sources ran articles citing Panetta as saying there was a high probability Israel would strike Iran’s nuclear facilities in the Spring of this year, April, May, or June.</p>
<p><a href="http://articles.nydailynews.com/2012-02-03/news/31022983_1_nuclear-program-iranian-nuclear-scientists-nuclear-weapons">http://articles.nydailynews.com/2012-02-03/news/31022983_1_nuclear-program-iranian-nuclear-scientists-nuclear-weapons</a></p>
<p><a href="http://security.blogs.cnn.com/2012/02/02/panetta-believes-israel-could-strike-iran-this-spring/">http://security.blogs.cnn.com/2012/02/02/panetta-believes-israel-could-strike-iran-this-spring/</a></p>
<p>I went on to say that <strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">IF</span></strong> Israel did stage such a strike, Iran would most certainly retaliate by attacking Israel within a few months. Such a retaliatory strike would in all likelihood be the fulfillment of Ezekiel 38 &amp; 39. I went on to say that many Bible students, myself among them, believe that the Rapture of the Church will be concurrent with the events of Ezekiel 38.  Following the Rapture is the Tribulation, which no one wants to be around for. All of this was meant to be illustrative of what Isaiah 55:6 says; “Seek the Lord while He may be found; call on Him while He is near.”</p>
<p>I need to clarify my remarks.</p>
<p>Leon Panetta is not someone given to wild or fanciful remarks. As a former director of the CIA and now the Secretary of Defense, his remarks are measured and careful. When he says something in public, we’re hearing the official position of the US Administration. So when Panetta says there’s a high probability Israel will strike Iran’s nuclear facilities in the Spring—there’s a high probability Israel will make a move against Iran’s nuclear facilities soon. And Panetta is saying so for some military or political advantage. What that is isn’t clear; but that is certainly the reason for the announcement.</p>
<p>Interesting that the Supreme Leader of Iran, the Ayatollah Khamenei, also gave a speech last week. He renewed his oft stated threats against Israel. The speech was aimed at countering the sanctions the US has installed on Iran in an attempt to halt their nuclear program. In a typically fiery speech, Khamenei said all the sanctions would do was teach Iran self-reliance and renew their commitment to their nuclear program. During the speech, the Ayatollah repeated the call to remove the “cancerous tumor” of Israel and vowed to assist all those who worked to do so.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.smh.com.au/world/khamenei-vows-to-fight-cancerous-tumour-israel-20120204-1qymh.html">http://www.smh.com.au/world/khamenei-vows-to-fight-cancerous-tumour-israel-20120204-1qymh.html</a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.haaretz.com/news/diplomacy-defense/iran-supreme-leader-u-s-israel-will-suffer-for-threats-on-nuclear-program-1.410875">http://www.haaretz.com/news/diplomacy-defense/iran-supreme-leader-u-s-israel-will-suffer-for-threats-on-nuclear-program-1.410875</a></p>
<p><a href="http://www.foxnews.com/world/2012/02/03/khamenei-iran-will-aid-anyone-confronting-israel/">http://www.foxnews.com/world/2012/02/03/khamenei-iran-will-aid-anyone-confronting-israel/</a></p>
<p>While world events are highly fluid and no one can predict with certainty what will occur or when, Panetta’s remarks, along with recent comments by political and military leaders in Israel, and Iran’s nuclear posturing present a pattern for how Ezekiel 38 <em>could</em> unfold.</p>
<p>That an Iran-Russia coalition attacks Israel in the end times <em>is</em> a certainty because Ezekiel 38 says so. Would retaliation for an Israeli strike on Iran’s nuclear facilities necessarily BE that foretold invasion? No. What if Russia joined Iran in that retaliation? Even then, there’s the <em>possibility</em> that it wasn’t THE fulfillment of  Ezekiel 38.  But, is that likely? Hardly. Here’s why …</p>
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<p>Ezekiel 38 and 39 are all a set-piece prophetic picture that begins in chapter 36. The prophet foretells Israel’s being regathered out of the nations back into her land and rising to amazing prosperity out of crushing poverty.  The Iran-Russia led coalition described in Ezekiel 38 is said to attack <em>that </em>Israel; the one that’s been brought back from being dispersed among the nations and has turned the wilderness into lush fields. The time of all this is described as being “after many days … in the latter years.” (Ezekiel 38:7-9)</p>
<p>The current political scene is the first time in recorded history when Iran and Russia have been politically close. Until the last few decades, they were hostile toward  each other. But now the alignments are poised for the nations listed in Ezekiel 38 that form the coalition that attacks Israel to do so. Turkey is the last hold-out and is swiftly moving toward an alignment with Iran.</p>
<p>The point is this—Is it possible the fulfillment of Ezekiel 38 and 39 could yet be decades out? Yes. But in light of the current world political situation, is that likely? No. If Iran retaliates for an Israeli attack on their nuclear facilities and Russia joins them, does that have to mean it’s a fulfillment of Ezekiel 38? No. But holding to a literal interpretation of Scripture, and understanding prophecy is a “normal” sense, is it reasonable to assume that such a retaliation by a Iran-Russia alliance is indeed the fulfillment of Ezekiel’s prophecy? Certainly!</p>
<p>In my opinion, the more significant issue is if the Rapture and Ezekiel 38 are concurrent. That is where far more potential for getting it wrong lies.</p>
<p>Here’s why some Bible students see the Rapture as taking place at the same times as the Iranian-Russian led coalition attacks Israel.</p>
<p>1) God’s redemptive focus is now on the Church. But according to Daniel 9, we understand God will shift that focus back to the geopolitical nation of Israel at some point for a final 7 year period. Since God has promised to never leave nor forsake the Church, He will Rapture them before turning His redemptive focus back to the Jews and Israel. Part of what happens in Ezekiel 38 and 39 is that when the invaders are miraculously wiped out, Israel is dramatically confronted with the realization God is real and they begin to turn to Him. It makes sense that this is the point His redemptive focus turns back to them; so the Rapture.</p>
<p>2) The Rapture is going to be a global phenomenon that sees millions of people disappear. If it were to occur right now while everything else was normal, it would deal a serious blow to the global consciousness. But if it occurred during a limited nuclear war in the Middle East that involved Russia and say, the United States – the world would be reeling from the political, military and economic fallout, to say nothing of the radioactive fallout. The Middle East Oil supplies would grind to a halt. The chaos would be global. The Rapture, as devastating as it was, would be just part of the blow to the Planet, and seemingly minor compared to the war in the Middle East. In 38:21, God says in judging the invaders of Israel, that He “calls for a sword against” them. This phrase is used in the Bible for when God uses one nation to judge another. What nation, an ally of Israel, has the capacity to oppose the massive coalition Ezekiel describes that attacks Israel in the end times? The US.</p>
<p>Going with this as the potential play out of Ezekiel 38, Russia, the US, and the radical Muslim states of the Middle East are removed from the scene as the Tribulation begins. The world is reeling, which provides the perfect stage for someone with amazing answers &amp; and solutions to step forward with his agenda. Let me introduce to you the Antichrist. Out of the ashes and chaos he proposes a new political, economic, and religious system—all seen by what’s left of the world as necessary to keep such a disaster from happening again. And so we see what the Bible says constitute the 3 final power centers who move toward Armageddon; Europe, China, and Africa.</p>
<p>Just sayin’ …</p>
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		<title>Prophesy Update</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Jan 2012 23:18:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Study of both fulfilled and unfulfilled prophecy is important to fully understand who God is. Lance had a prophecy update this year on 1/1/2012 that outlines biblical prophecy and current events. Here is a compilation of all resources from that update. More Information about Transhumanism http://www.calvaryoxnard.org/studies/Transhumanism/Transhumanism.htm   Podcast http://www.calvaryoxnard.org/podcast/?p=episode&#38;name=2012-01-10_occupyearth.mp3   Video http://www.truthcasting.com/player.aspx#showSermon=43558    Notes http://www.calvaryoxnard.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Prophecy_update_2012.docx       &#160; [...]]]></description>
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<p>Study of both fulfilled and unfulfilled prophecy is important to fully understand who God is. Lance had a prophecy update this year on 1/1/2012 that outlines biblical prophecy and current events. Here is a compilation of all resources from that update.</p>
<address>More Information about Transhumanism</address>
<address><a href="http://www.calvaryoxnard.org/studies/Transhumanism/Transhumanism.htm"><span style="color: #bb9c66;">http://www.calvaryoxnard.org/studies/Transhumanism/Transhumanism.htm</span></a></address>
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<address>Podcast</address>
<address><a href="http://www.calvaryoxnard.org/podcast/?p=episode&amp;name=2012-01-10_occupyearth.mp3">http://www.calvaryoxnard.org/podcast/?p=episode&amp;name=2012-01-10_occupyearth.mp3</a></address>
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<address>Video</address>
<address><a href="http://www.truthcasting.com/player.aspx#showSermon=43558">http://www.truthcasting.com/player.aspx#showSermon=43558</a></address>
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<address> Notes</address>
<address><a href="http://www.calvaryoxnard.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Prophecy_update_2012.docx">http://www.calvaryoxnard.org/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/Prophecy_update_2012.docx</a></address>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 01 Jan 2012 14:40:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[We hope you enjoy our website. We hope you find the site a useful resource you can use to further your relationship with our Lord Jesus Christ. If you have any issues with the site, let us know by emailing us at info@calvaryoxnard.org.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We hope you enjoy our website. We hope you find the site a useful resource you can use to further your relationship with our Lord Jesus Christ. If you have any issues with the site, let us know by emailing us at <a href="mailto:info@calvaryoxnard.org">info@calvaryoxnard.org</a>.</p>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 13 Nov 2011 07:21:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you haven&#8217;t experienced the joy and growth in a small group setting, now is your chance! This map shows the approximate location of all home groups associated with Calvary Chapel Oxnard. If you don&#8217;t have a bible study, take a look on the list and give them a call. You will be blessed! CCO [...]]]></description>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 30 Oct 2011 14:37:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Highlights from Calvary Chapel Oxnard&#8217;s Thailand mission trip in November 2010. The video is promoting the next mission trip to Thailand in 2012.]]></description>
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		<title>High School Inner-City Missions Trip</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 13 Oct 2011 21:50:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[“It’s not the government’s responsibility to care for the poor— it’s the church’s responsibility.” Have you ever been to Downtown Los Angeles? Maybe it was for a concert, party, shopping, or just to hang out. But did you know that Los Angeles is known both as America’s First Third World City AND the world’s future [...]]]></description>
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<h1>“It’s not the government’s responsibility to care for the poor—<br />
it’s the church’s responsibility.”</h1>
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<p>Have you ever been to Downtown Los Angeles? Maybe it was for a concert, party, shopping, or just to hang out. But did you know that<br />
Los Angeles is known both as America’s First Third World City AND the world’s future financial capital?<br />
&#8230;<br />
That means it&#8217;s one of the richest and poorest cities in America.</p>
<p>Have you ever taken a homeless person out to breakfast? Not just, handed him a dollar out the car window, but actually shook their hand, introduced yourself, learned his/her name, and then brought them along to breakfast with you and your friends?</p>
<p>Have you ever stopped to pray, not just FOR, but WITH homeless people?</p>
<p>If you sign up for this and give it all the love you&#8217;ve got, there&#8217;s an INCREDIBLY likely chance that you will never be the same again.</p>
<h2>Please email Clarivel@calvaryoxnard.org if you have any questions or if you&#8217;d like to sign up</h2>
<h3>Right now, we have only TWENTY spots for this inner-city missions trip. (There&#8217;s a possibility that we might request more spots, but we need to make sure the 20 fill up securely.)</h3>
<h2>We will be leaving around 4pm from the SHACK on Friday, January 13. (Yes, this is rush hour, so this might change&#8230;) We should be back in Oxnard around 2pm on Monday, Jan. 16.</p>
<p>The cost for this trip is $195 per person. This will cover all of your meals while we&#8217;re there, although it&#8217;s always good to bring extra cash for snack and for our lunch on our way from LA.</p>
<p>The sweet plus is that, since this is technically a &#8220;missions trip&#8221; and NOT a &#8220;camp&#8221;, you will be able to send support letters and raise support for your trip! Please have ALL checks made out to Calvary Chapel of Oxnard with YOUR NAME &amp; &#8220;HIGH SCHOOL CSM&#8221; in the memo line! Turn them into Clarivel!!</h2>
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		<title>Marriage Q &amp; A</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 06 Oct 2011 00:38:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Lance Ralston</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[MARRIAGE QUESTIONS &#38; ANSWERS (Hopefully) The following are the questions we had submitted during the 2011 Mid-Week Marriage Series at Calvary Chapel Oxnard. We were only had enough time to answer  a few in the time allotted for them at the conclusion of the last session. So here are the all the questions with what [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p align="center">MARRIAGE QUESTIONS &amp; ANSWERS (Hopefully)</p>
<p>The following are the questions we had submitted during the 2011 Mid-Week Marriage Series at Calvary Chapel Oxnard. We were only had enough time to answer  a few in the time allotted for them at the conclusion of the last session.</p>
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<p>So here are the all the questions with what we hope are helpful answers.</p>
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<p><strong>1)                  </strong><strong>It is our understanding that as men and women age and their hormone production slows down to zero, their sex drive may also disappear.  We believe that is God&#8217;s design as they have long passed their &#8216;reproduction&#8217; years.  Our question is this: should a senior married couple resort to medicine or medical device to prolong their sex life, or simply follow the rhythm of nature and live a loving and caring married life without sexual intimacy?   We think God wants us to follow his natural design, but we would appreciate your interpretation of His Word.</strong></p>
<p>Two becoming one is a life-long process. As we age, we change; in body, soul &amp; spirit. This is why we must keep communication going – checking in with each other to make sure we’re still <em>knowing</em> our mate. Talking about your sex-life is part of that intimacy. As the years pass, expect your sex-life to change. Don’t buy the world’s lie that only the young enjoy life.  And don’t fall into the trap of thinking that if you’re “normal” you’re sexual encounters have to be so many times a week or month. Talk to each other as the years pass about what you enjoy &amp; desire, then blend; Compromise. Move <em>together</em>.</p>
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<p>I’m not a doctor so take this with a large disclaimer – but the idea of hormone supplements to artificially forestall the normal aging process seems to me to be capitulation to the worldly idea that exalts youth. Why would you take supplements &amp; risk all the side-effects just so you can boost your libido &amp; add a couple of days a month to your love-making?</p>
<p>There may be a legitimate problem with a low hormone level that requires supplementation. But be wary of such supplementation just to forestall the onset of aging.</p>
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<p><strong>2)                  </strong><strong>How can single believers court the right way?</strong></p>
<p>This question requires a long answer. We have done courtship seminars in the past. The whole issue of Christians &amp; dating is something a lot of people are considering. Let me suggest a couple of books instead –</p>
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<li><em>I Kissed Dating Goodbye</em> – by Josh Harris. Then the sequel – <em>Boy Meets Girl</em>.  (These can both be <em>idealistic</em> but are still hold some good ideas.)</li>
<li><em>Passion &amp; Purity </em>by Elizabeth Elliot.
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<li><em>When God Writes Your Love Story </em>by Eric &amp; Leslie Ludy</li>
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<p><strong>3)                  </strong><strong>How are finances supposed to be managed? Are accounts supposed to be joint? Are funds to be managed by the husband?</strong></p>
<p>Money &amp; possessions ought to be managed by the principles we find in God’s Word. <em>Compass</em> &amp; Crown are both excellent resources to use for that.</p>
<p>Since marriage is about two becoming one, <em>in everything</em>, that includes finances. This doesn’t mean a husband &amp; wife  can’t agree to have minor accounts set up for things like vacations or special projects. But their <strong><em>main account</em></strong> ought to be one.</p>
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<p>While the husband is called to be the head &amp; so take responsibility for the marriage, what that means is that he realizes who is <em>best positioned</em> to manage the books. If the wife is better with a calculator, better at math, &amp; savvier than he with numbers, as well as maybe she has more time to do it, then she manage the books. But the husband is still the one who’s charged with the responsibility for the financial health of the home. His being the head doesn’t mean he has to do everything in terms of execution.</p>
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<p><strong>4)                  </strong><strong>How can the wife encourage her husband’s spiritual growth as well as the spiritual growth of the marriage in a positive way, without “pushing” too much?</strong></p>
<p>Mostly through prayer &amp; by being a good example. Read 1 Peter 3:1-6.</p>
<p>It is certainly proper for a wife to occasionally ask her husband to pray with her, if he doesn’t initiate. But this ought to be <strong><em>infrequent</em></strong>, so that he doesn’t see her as nagging. Here’s how this works – don’t say, “I wish you’d pray with me more. I wish you’d take the initiative &amp; be the spiritual leader around here.” You’re communicating by saying this that he’s deficient. The word “more” implies dissatisfaction and is heard as critical.</p>
<p>Instead, ask, “There are a couple quick things I want to pray about, honey. Can I pray with you about them?”</p>
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<p>Also, when you see him take <strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">ANY</span></strong> initiative in spiritual things, respond quickly &amp; encouragingly. Don’t say, “Well it’s about time! I was wondering how long it was gonna’ take before you manned-up.”</p>
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<p><strong>5)                  </strong><strong>How much spiritual leadership should a wife/mom take on if the husband/father is not?</strong></p>
<p>n  <strong>In an unequally yoked marriage?</strong></p>
<p>None. No <strong><em>spiritual</em></strong> <span style="text-decoration: underline;">leadership</span>. Be a believer &amp; growth as a follower of Jesus. But a wife can’t “take” leadership because it isn’t hers; it’s her husband’s. If she <em>assume</em> leadership, it will back-fire. He’ll get resentful, shamed, and probably set himself in opposition to her. All of that won’t encourage him toward the Lord but away.</p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Read 1 Peter 3:1–4</span> • <sup>1</sup> Wives, likewise, <em>be</em> submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, <sup>2</sup> when they observe your chaste conduct <em>accompanied</em> by fear. <sup>3</sup> Do not let your adornment be <em>merely</em> outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on <em>fine</em> apparel— <sup>4</sup> rather <em>let it be</em> the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible <em>beauty</em> of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.</p>
<p>n  <strong>In an equally yoked marriage, where wife is stronger in faith or Word? Is there a point where she can be enabling his lack of leadership responsibility?</strong></p>
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<p>This is quite common but it changes nothing. The husband is <em>still</em> the head &amp; the leader. The quickest, surest way to see the husband mature &amp; step into an active role as the spiritual leader is for the wife to treat him with <strong>respect</strong>; treating him as if he <em>already is</em> what he <em>ought</em> to be. Most men when they are respected come around to wanting to become what that respect esteems then to be. It may take a while before he catches on, but he will.</p>
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<p><strong>6)                  </strong><strong>Will we know our spouse in heaven and will we be married to each other in heaven?  At what age will be appear to each other?</strong></p>
<p>Yes, we’ll know our spouse in heaven but we won’t be married.</p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Luke 20:34–35</span> • <sup>34</sup> Jesus answered and said to them, “The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage. <sup>35</sup> But those who are counted worthy to attain that age, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry nor are given in marriage.</p>
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<p>Remember – the purpose of marriage is to solve the problem of loneliness. And to that end, the goal of marriage is that two become one.  None of that applies in Heaven because we’re in a perfect relationship with God &amp; with others. We won’t <em>need</em> marriage because even the most casual relationship I heaven will be way more intimate &amp; full than the best marriage Earth’s ever known.</p>
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<p><strong>7)                  </strong><strong>What happens if a spouse becomes seriously injured and no longer holds much mental capacity?  Is the healthy spouse granted the ability to divorce</strong></p>
<p>The only basis for dissolving a marriage in God’s eyes are adultery &amp; abandonment. Age, diminished mental capacity, Alzheimer’s, etc. are not grounds for divorce. What they are, are grounds for showing the love promised when years before they stood at the altar &amp; said, “In sickness &amp; in health., till death us do part.</p>
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<p>In 1990, the president of the prestigious Columbia Bible College Robertson McQuilkin resigned so he could take care of his ailing wife Muriel. He had received all kinds of honors as the school president &amp; was greatly respected in his field, but he walked away from fame &amp; fortune to keep his vow to his wife. 3 years later, she no longer even recognized him, but he maintained his vigil at her side for the next 10 years. That’s what it means to be a man &amp; a husband.</p>
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<p><strong>8)                  </strong><strong>Does a woman, in marriage, have the right to withhold sex from her husband, not because of meanness, but because she does not feel like it? </strong></p>
<p>1 Cor. 7 says specifically that a man or woman is not to do this.</p>
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<p>In any marriage, a husband &amp; wife will find one would like a greater frequency in physical intimacy while the other prefers less. Becoming one means finding a creative way to move toward each other so instead of “my way” &amp; “your way” it’s “our way.”  This is an issue of compromise where they talk &amp; agree to a plan that brings them to oneness.</p>
<p>For a man/woman who isn’t as interested in sex as their spouse, they must recognize that with-holding physical intimacy is dangerous because it opens a door to temptation. This is precisely what Paul warns against in 1 Cor. 7.</p>
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<p><strong>9)                  </strong><strong>According to the Sermon on the Mount, if a man looks at a woman to commit adultery, does the wife have basis to divorce on the basis of adultery?</strong></p>
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<p>No – because while a cultivated lust is something we can’t hide from God, that CAN’T be the basis of divorce because we can’t see into each other’s hearts. The <strong>act</strong> of adultery is a different matter – that is a behavior with definite content &amp; consequence.</p>
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<p><strong>10)              </strong><strong>The Bible says, “out of the abundance of your heart, the mouth speaks” &amp; “the heart is deceitful and desperately wicked, who can know it?”  What do you say?</strong></p>
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<p>Both are true. We get a <em>new</em> heart when we are born again. Ezekiel 36:26: &amp; 1 Cor. 5:7</p>
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<p><strong>11)              </strong><strong>A friend, who is a new believer, doesn’t seem to understand the Biblical principle that sex is reserved for married couples only.  This person believes in not practicing <em>adultery</em>, but <em>fornication</em> doesn’t make sense to him.  Could you please address this?  </strong></p>
<p>Sexual abstinence doesn’t make sense to this person for one reason – they want to have sex before marriage. Yet 1 Corinthians 6:9  says • Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither <strong>fornicators</strong>, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites …</p>
<p>Galatians 5:19 • Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, <strong>fornication</strong>, uncleanness, lewdness, …</p>
<p>Ephesians 5:3 • But <strong>fornication</strong> and all uncleanness or covetousness, <span style="text-decoration: underline;">let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints</span></p>
<p>Ephesians 5:5 • For this you know, that no <strong>fornicator</strong>, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.</p>
<p>Colossians 3:5 • Therefore put to death your members which are on the earth: <strong>fornication</strong>, uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.</p>
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<p>Hebrews 13:4 • Marriage <em>is</em> honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but <strong>fornicators</strong> and adulterers God will judge.</p>
<p>So, there’s 6 passages which prohibit sex outside of marriage. If someone objects &amp; tries to run to the Greek here &amp; explain this away as anything other than extra-marital sex, they’re just grasping for straws. The word was used in classical Greek to refer to all sex outside the marriage bond.</p>
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<p><strong>12)              </strong><strong>How do you deal with in-laws and husband’s family when they constantly call for issues they are having at home?  They expect husband to take care of all their problems.  They drop in unexpected, controlling my husband.  They are not believers.</strong></p>
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<p>Take a look at what we covered on this in the last session about leaving &amp; cleaving.</p>
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<p><strong>13)              </strong><strong>I believe in God, my husband does not.  We have 4 boys, 2 are his, the 2 that are not his, he does not get along with.  We are currently separated; he is trying to work it out. It is an unhealthy and unsafe relationship and he has been abusive to me and the children.  He is not willing to get marriage counseling (he laughs about it).  He talks down on me and the boys that are not his.  QUESTION:  Am I being punished for going back to him so many times when he was abusive?</strong></p>
<p>If by punished, you mean by the Lord, I would have to say, that isn’t consistent with God’s character. Are you experiencing the result of some poor choices? Probably.</p>
<p>There’s a lot you’re asking here but let me try to cut to the core – if he’s being physically abusive toward you, that’s a crime, report him.</p>
<p>There are good men of God who’ll disagree with me on this, &amp; others who also see things this way è His neglect &amp; abuse of you, is a <strong>form</strong> of abandonment. Remember in 1 Cor. 7 Paul allows divorce in the case of abandonment by an unbeliever. What if an unbeliever doesn’t physically remove him/herself, but makes it EVEN WORSE by staying, is abusive, dangerous by engaging in criminal behavior that imperils the spouse &amp; kids, or neglects all his/her real duties toward their spouse? How is that really any different than abandonment? BY Abandonment, does Paul mean only a physical departure, or might he also mean abandonment of the covenantal requirements of the marriage? It’s my opinion that while we need to be cautious that we don’t over-extend ‘abandonment’ to mean <em>anything</em> we want it to (as some do with the term “abuse”)  it can mean this kind of neglect or endangerment. This is where asking trusted spiritual counsel can be helpful.</p>
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